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Part 1, Getting Ready to Get Ready
Chapter 8

DUMP THE EXCUSES FOR NOT GETTING OUT

"One excuse is as good as another" - Everyone

Sticks and stones may break our bones, but words will break our hearts.

Aren't you sick of saying the same old thing, anyway?

Ask yourself if you recognize these old excuses:

  • I'm too busy.
  • I'm waiting for the right person.
  • The good ones are all married.
  • All men/women are jerks.
  • I'm shy (There are a lot of shy married people-they dated too).
  • I can't do this to the children.
  • They're all losers…or am I
  • It's going to be a disaster.
  • I'm not ready.
  • No one will like me.
  • I've been hurt too many times before.

Can you imagine if a baby decided not to get up every time he fell down while he was learning to walk?

Let me be the first to tell you, you won't always do it right. So WHAT?

If you don't take a stand, you won't stand a chance!!

"I enjoyed each and every short chapter! I LOVE the quote "it's just a date"!!! I have the problem of taking the date and playing it out until the conclusion and thus canceling even the first date! LOL. I am going to take your advice and be more in the moment about dating in the future!!!"
-Reader

Here's another excerpt from Dating 101

Part 3 Learning Dating Tactics
Chapter 2

TAKE CUES

"Knowledge has never been known to enter the head via an open mouth." - Anonymous

When approaching people, take cues as to where they are in their life right now. Some newly single people will be sensitive to body language that they don't understand. On an evening out some years ago I was with a newly divorced friend and I introduced her to one of my men friends. He joined us and immediately acted as though he and she had the same relationship and friendship that he and I fostered over many years, she didn't understand it and felt "hovered over" and left early.

My advice to him at the time was to act as though she were not introduced but were a stranger with whom he attempted to elicit a conversation. He should take the cues from her as to what is acceptable for her now. The confusion was the mutual friendship between the man and me, but she became immediately uncomfortable. It was actually a boundary issue that he needed to be aware of.


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