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Part 1, Getting Ready to Get Ready
DUMP THE EXCUSES FOR NOT GETTING OUT
"One excuse is as good as another" - Everyone
Sticks and stones may break our bones, but words will break our hearts.
Aren't you sick of saying the same old thing, anyway?
Ask yourself if you recognize these old excuses:
Can you imagine if a baby decided not to get up every time he fell down while he was learning to walk?
Let me be the first to tell you, you won't always do it right. So WHAT?
If you don't take a stand, you won't stand a chance!!
Part 3 Learning Dating Tactics
"Knowledge has never been known to enter the head via an open mouth." - Anonymous
When approaching people, take cues as to where they are in their life right now. Some newly single people will be sensitive to body language that they don't understand. On an evening out some years ago I was with a newly divorced friend and I introduced her to one of my men friends. He joined us and immediately acted as though he and she had the same relationship and friendship that he and I fostered over many years, she didn't understand it and felt "hovered over" and left early.
My advice to him at the time was to act as though she were not introduced but were a stranger with whom he attempted to elicit a conversation. He should take the cues from her as to what is acceptable for her now. The confusion was the mutual friendship between the man and me, but she became immediately uncomfortable. It was actually a boundary issue that he needed to be aware of.
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